Massage Etiquette: The Complete Guide
The Golden Rules
Good etiquette isn't just about being polite — it directly affects the quality of your experience. Providers give their best work to respectful, considerate clients.
Before the Session
Shower. This is the single most important rule. Shower thoroughly before every session, no exceptions. If you're coming from work or the gym, ask if there's a shower you can use on arrival (most incall providers have one).
Be on time. Arriving late means less time for your session. Most providers won't extend the session to make up for your tardiness. If you're running late, text immediately.
Confirm your appointment. A quick confirmation text the morning of your appointment is appreciated. "Hi, confirming our 3 PM appointment today" is all you need.
Have payment ready. Don't fumble for cash at the start of the session. Have the exact amount ready in a clean envelope or folded neatly. Most providers prefer cash.
During the Session
Communicate. Tell your provider if the pressure is too much or too little. Mention areas that need extra attention. This isn't a test of toughness — it's about having the best possible experience.
Follow the provider's lead. They're the professional. Let them guide the flow of the session. If they ask you to turn over or adjust position, follow their direction.
Respect boundaries. Every provider has boundaries. They'll communicate these at the start. Respect them without question.
Put your phone on silent. Nothing breaks the mood like a ringing phone. Put it on silent and put it away.
Relax. Don't try to "help" by flexing muscles or lifting limbs. Let your body go limp and let the provider do their work.
After the Session
Tip appropriately. Tipping is customary in NYC. A standard tip is 15-20% of the session rate. For exceptional sessions, 20-25% is a generous way to show appreciation.
Don't linger unnecessarily. After your session, take a few minutes to collect yourself, shower if needed, and get dressed. But don't camp out — the provider may have another appointment.
Leave a review. Honest, detailed reviews help other clients and support providers who deliver quality experiences. Mention what you enjoyed without being explicit.
Tipping Guide for NYC
| Session Rate | 15% Tip | 20% Tip |
|---|---|---|
| $200 | $30 | $40 |
| $300 | $45 | $60 |
| $400 | $60 | $80 |
| $500 | $75 | $100 |
Common Mistakes to Avoid
- Don't negotiate prices. The rate is the rate. If it's outside your budget, find a different provider.
- Don't show up intoxicated. Moderate alcohol consumption before a session is fine. Being visibly drunk is not.
- Don't ask for services that aren't offered. If a service isn't listed, don't ask for it.
- Don't take photos or videos. This is never acceptable without explicit consent.
- Don't ghost. If you need to cancel, do so with as much advance notice as possible. No-shows hurt providers financially and may result in being blacklisted.
Being a Great Regular Client
Providers value loyal clients who:
- Book consistently and reliably
- Are always clean, respectful, and on time
- Tip well and don't haggle
- Communicate preferences clearly
- Refer other quality clients
- Leave honest, supportive reviews
Building a relationship with a provider you trust leads to better sessions over time — they learn your preferences and can tailor the experience specifically to you.